I look back to our first meeting at my Thanksgiving dinner at my Bradley Beach artists loft with a smile. Seeing him walk up the stairs with his best friend Claude, he was easy on my eyes. I later found him to be such a gentleman that he didn't even try to kiss me. We knew that God had created us for each other by the third month of courting, but waited for eleven months to go by before marrying.
Our marriage has been very unconventional, but we are bound spiritually. I would change nothing about my best friend and accept him unconditionally. Both of us have been severely abused, taken for granted and abandoned by our exes. Our love for God and each other is so surrendered that even though we both had parents who were harsh, highly critical and gave us little affirmation, God daily tempers our deeply-ingrained ugly attributes into what He wants us to be, nurturing, long-suffering and kind.
I can't imagine the difficulties Mark endures with his damaged spine, sleep-apnea, (walking up at 5 am), the breadwinners responsibility and to deal with the burden of my huge medical expenses of this Lyme-Dystonia condition. He is the most amazing, generous and hard-working man I have ever loved. This gift of hardship has drawn us together and we face the challenges together with great appreciation to God for each other. There is nothing that kills or maims a marriage faster than despising your spouses weakness. I accept Mark as he is, hot-tempered and critical and all and he accepts my forgetfullness, enigmatic and fragile femaleness, We take the good with the bad, but our trust in each others abilities outweighs our weakness.
Throughout our marriage, Mark has learned that when he despises my female fragilities, his prayers are hindered. Many husbands could learn a great deal about humility!
I want to share and celebrate my husband, Mark. I am truly blessed that God graced me with a godly man who is a fine human being, highly intelligent and logical husband and a good provider. The Lord is Good and His mercy endures forever!
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